Today was a big day for me because I was meeting the families! First up: Travis' relatives. I was especially nervous because his Travis' Familymother is only 7 years older than I am. Part of me thought we could have a great friendship, but the other part of me knew she would be protective. His mom was shocked to learn I was 40 and had four kids. She had a lot of reservations -- which she expressed to me in no indirect fashion.

 

I was a little uneasy, but as a mother I understand where she was coming from. I really felt that I needed to assure her I would never put Travis in a situation to sacrifice or to be a distraction. I need an equal in life, and putting someone in a position to choose or to interfere with getting ahead in life isn't a healthy start.

I was surprised how much Travis stood up for me -- and us -- to his mother. Travis is very mature in that way, and he stands firm in who he is with solid conviction. When I kissed Travis in front of his mom, she said, "Ewwww!" That wasn't exactly the response I was after, but it did make me laugh a little. I understand his family's concerns, and agree that Travis and I may have way too much of an age gap. It's tough, because I really like Travis, who he is, and what he stands for.

Travis and Stacey Kiss
Jimmy's family made me feel at ease, especially since I also come from a large Italian family. His parents seemed more concerned about ME, not my age. That was so refreshing and made me relax right away. They were so supportive of our relationship, and I sensed that they truly felt we were a great couple. They are so family-oriented and so tight with each other. I love that! Jimmy is lucky to be blessed with five siblings and such loving parents. I could definitely see me and my kids fitting right in with the Hecks. Jimmy's dad was concerned first and foremost about my kids. That means so much to me. When Jimmy's mom said she'd welcome me into the family, it made my heart melt.

Jimmy's Family
I was a train wreck meeting Colt's brothers. I have that sick intuition that comes into play, and I think I knew right away that they would be tough on me. Colt takes his brothers' opinions very seriously, so I felt like I was going to have to get their stamp of approval. What if they didn't like me? I could tell his brothers were less than amused to hear I had four kids. I'm not sure if their reaction was because they felt like Colt wasn't ready for that, or if they were just plain shocked. When Duke and I had our private conversation, I felt so much better; it's tough being up against three strong-headed, confident men!

 

When they asked me if it was "painful" I said "No, not at all." I told a white lie. It was scary as hell! I know my feelings run deep for Colt, and so I placed importance on this meeting -- so much so that it got the best of me. I definitely sensed that Colt was proud to introduce me to his brothers, and that made me feel special. His brothers said he NEVER holds a girl's hand, so they were very taken back to see Colt hold mine. I wonder what that's about? Is Colt unaffectionate or just super-selective? Hopefully it's the latter.

I can't say I was surprised that Adam brought Grant. It was fun to see him again, but I have to say I was disappointed that I didn't meet his parents. Adam openly admitted his parents wouldn't approve of me, so clearly we have a problem. Grant told me that he was the reason Adam "came along for the ride" of this whole experience. It's becoming clear that I should have kept Grant at the house and not his twin. Adam said Grant is cramping his style. Actually, Adam is cramping Adam's style. I really do like him, and many of his qualities. But obviously he hasn't been genuine and real. No woman likes to be taken for a ride, and I'm no exception.

It was a no-brainer sending Adam home. I am sure one day I will see him in Park City, and hopefully we'll remain friends. I understand his position with his parents, but I'm not sure why he dates cougars if his family would give him so much grief over it - and he's not able to handle their disapproval.

Message Edited by StaceyTheCougar on 05-20-2009 10:02 PM